Where do I start?
Main stream media is always telling us to be individual which then becomes the normal and makes us question what is normal.
Normal is a range of many things in a line from point A to point B.
Normal is whatever you make it to be.
The whole point of this "break free of normal" movement has been clarified in my own life, as stop being the one to chain yourself up and follow the river and where it goes.
There are so many things that are main stream. To jump on the bandwagon. To go with the flow, per say.
I can say now, that this was a bad decision. I didn't honestly make this "decision" to jump on the bandwagon, instead I started being persuaded into liking the bandwagon way of doing things and that was my breaking point.
What am I talking about so distantly? I'm talking about my love story and my sister's love story.
This is a weird, touchy and hard subject for me.
I now know, that my love story is created by God. That every day is a lesson and a blessing and it's all God. All I ever wanted in a relationship was God, me, and my future man.
ALL I wanted. I have that !!! I am so ecstatically happy of pure joy that I get the best relationship in the world; with me and my man searching, praying, listening, and living in God.
This is heaven on earth, right here. Right now.
This brings up the subject again of jumping on the bandwagon with my sister's newly found engagement.
There are somethings I'm a big fan of, like engagements. This one is different, she's known the guy a week and that makes no sense to me.
Either it doesn't make sense because I have been a steady relationship with my man for a year now (in a couple days we will be together for a year) or it doesn't make sense because it doesn't seem like it was a "God" thing, like my sister says it is.
Getting married or engaged fast and quickly is very off putting in my opinion. I feel you don't get the understanding of knowing your friend, the one person you're choosing to spend the rest of your life with. The one person that you commit to for the rest of your life and don't let go of. Because you believe in them, you want to be with them, and they fill you, constantly blessing you in simple ways.
This is the bandwagon effect I'm talking about. For a small while, I was on this bandwagon and wanting to get married quickly and fast, just to say that I could be married and be grown up.
There is nothing worst than rushing something that isn't going to happen yet. These people that are getting married within two days or months of being together or liking each other, I find impossible! People don't seem to be blessed or given an understanding that everything my man and I have gone through in the last year will be in their marriage. That a relationship is hard work and the first few years you need to work out the kinks.
I also understand some people are compatible and that they are able to get along well. (so are my man and I.) But that fast to get married and that fast to be engaged without knowing what they are getting into seems so far beyond me. I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around it. I'm not sure what to think. Honestly, I really don't.
I'm happy for all of the women and men getting married to their best friend. Congrats! :D
I think it would be wise, to learn a person and learn where God is in your relationship before you jump on the bandwagon.
I have a beautiful love story and I wouldn't trade it for anything because I know how amazing it is.
Thanks to God for the hit upside the head. He gave me the recognition of true "eyes open" in this situation. :) Thank you God.
